You Won't Change, Will You?

"Why are you repeating the same mistake over and over again? Why can't you just learn from your mistake? You disappoint me so much!" Sounds familiar? We probably hear it that much that they don't actually mean anything but nagging anymore. No wonder parents nowadays are complaining that their children won't bother listening to their advice, that they selectively listen to all advices given. Of course they won't if you never give them the chance to change themselves!

It certainly hurts a lot when you do something that breaks your parents' heart, but it hurts even more when you are not given the chance to prove yourself. I am not saying once, not twice, not thrice, but unlimited times, unconditionally. 

They always say if your partner comes back to your second time, you can still consider giving them a second chance. Yet if they come back for the third or fourth time, they can never ever be forgiven, not even a chance at all. Who are you to dictate how one's relationship should go? Are you the party involved? Ask yourself this question. If not, shut up.

Why do we forgive people only twice when we can forgive them thrice or more? Why do we not give people a chance to prove themselves? Even if it means it could possibly hurt us for once and again. Yet and again, no one can hurt you if you don't allow them to. People only get to you with your cooperation. 

We don't give others a chance, and we wonder why people do the same to us. How funny! 

Is it really that hard to forgive? With an open heart, I don't think it is. People that can't forgive others feel insecure. So, the problem is never on you not being able to forgive, but rather something that you feel insecure of. They are different. And no one should over project their insecurities on someone else.

Not to mention that if you can't bother to forgive someone else, you are not changing too, are you? Then what is the difference between you and them?

Change and Ego, what's your pick?